Being Number one

I had a very good friend tell me that "as long as I am number one, that is all that matters..."
I believe that to this day. It is a fundamental element of what holds friendship together. It is an honor and a privilege that any person in your life would make you number one. How many number one's can anyone really have???

I think what scares me some time is the responsibility that comes with being number one. It means that every minute of every day, you have something to live up to. That what is given should be returned in spades. Is this a bad thing??

No it is not. It is a responsiblity. Different than an emotion, it is something that should be dealt with as a foundation to all other things. Emotions have highs and lows. It is hard to be happy without sorrow. It is hard to have fun without knowing when to be serious. There is not good without evil.

But commitment is not negotiable. Being number one to another person brings with it a level of responsibility that does not have a negotiation.

This does not mean that the number one is a handcuff or a restriction. It is not an excuse for avoiding personal growth and having fun in all facets of life. But it is a core fabric of who you are and how you choose to conduct yourself.

There is no where to go from the top but down. It is harder to stay number one then to become number one.

This commitment is worth investing in. Nurishing and protecting.

Being number one is very difficult.

I am lucky to be number one...

The Children are our Future... Unfortunately they have Parents

I just came back from vacation with my better half. It was amazing. Best vacation I have ever had. We went to a secluded island in British Columbia with one gas station, no stop lights, and the most amazing resort www.poetscove.com and Marina that looked out over the Straits of Georgia(Pacific Ocean). You could not find a more upscale facility in this type of a secluded place. It rocked

You could arrive by either Ferry, Sea Plane, or private Boat. It was a family place as well as a spot for people wanting to get away from it all.

Set up complete, mild rant to follow.

During our week there, not one day went by when bliss was not interrupted by a child or children either screaming, crying, or running about in dining rooms or other public areas. The occasional toddler fussing is no big deal. It is what they do until they learn to verbalize. It is down right cute to make a one year old smile after they were just crying. Kids are amazing adaptive. They are what they learn to be. I have no problem with the youngins we encountered even if they were screaming and obnoxious. However I would like to slap the hell out of a couple parents

What it is about being responsible for the actions of your children that some people dont get? How about if I run around your dining room yelling and knocking over things when you are trying to eat? What if I stand next to your chair and scream in your ear for 15 to 20 minutes? How would you feel about being disrespected by a clerk in a store or public place like your own children disrespect you in public? The kids are fine, shame on the adults for growing a generation of cretins.

It is OK to discipline a child. Trying to negotiate world peace with a two year old is not going to go very far. Slap them once on the butt(feel free to get in another lick if the mood suits you) and I bet they think twice about pitching another fit. If your child wont behave in a public place, THEN YOU AS A PARENT HAVE REPSONSIBLITY TO REMOVE THEM -AND YOURSELF- to the betterment of your fellow mankind. If you have a 5 or 6 year old telling you as a parent what THEY will or will not do, feel free to go psycho on them. You know why older children get smart mouth with you parents... See sentence one, this paragraph.

Why is it that I should be forced on vacation or at Kroger to be faced with the fact that someone is shitty parent??? These people are oblivious to anything that resembles social etiquette and a respect for their fellow (wo)man. Not the kid's fault, they are as they have been trained.

I have two adult children and two adult step-children, all of child baring years(please not yet, I am not ready for Grandfatherhood). Understand the message now 1- if you let your children be brats, I will put YOU in time out and explain it to you, not them! 2- if you can not control your children; I will, or, you can choose to practice your parenting skills elsewhere.

I am not the Marquis d Sade. Responsible parents make responsible children. Wouldn't that be a better world!

I feel better now.

I am sure someone will be forwarding this to child services...